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I RECEIVED THIS LINK FROM SOMEONE I WAS SPEAKING WITH ONLINE. I HOPE THIS HELPS. I RECENTLY FOUND OUT THAT I AM PREGNANT. I AM 24 AND I HAVE A 5 YEAR OLD SON. THE FATHER OF THE BABY WANTS ME TO HAVE AN ABORTION. BUT I DON'T THINK THAT I CAN. I AM VERY ANTI-ABORTION. HE KNOWS THIS BUT KEEPS TELLING ME THAT IT IS THE BEST THING RIGHT NOW. HE IS NOT READY TO BE A FATHER. HE IS 26 HAS A GREAT JOB BUT STILL WANTS TO GO OUT AND BE FREE. ONE OF MY BIGGEST ISSUES IS THAT I WAS TOLD I WOULD NEVER BE ABLE TO GET PREGNANT AGAIN AFTER I HAD A MEDICAL ISSUE. THIS MAY BE MY LAST CHANCE. I AM HAVING A REALLY HARD TIME TRYING TO DECIDE WHAT TO DO. HE KEEPS TELLING ME THAT HE CARES AND THAT HE WANTS TO BE THERE FOR ME....BUT IT SEEMS AS THOUGH EVERYTHING AND EVERYONE ELSE IS MORE IMPORTANT THAN ME RIGHT NOW. I HAVEN'T SEEN HIM IN OVER A WEEK. I HAVE TALKED TO HIM AND HE KEEPS TELLING ME HE IS SORRY AND TO GIVE HIM ANOTHER CHANCE. BUT NOTHING IS CHANGING. I AM LOST, SCARED, CONFUSED, AND I NEED HIM MORE THAN ANYTHING RIGHT NOW. I DON'T WANT TO LOSE MY BABY. BUT I ALSO WANT TO MAKE THE RIGHT DECISION. AND I CAN'T KEEP DOING IT ALONE.
ANY ADVICE OR SUGGESTIONS WOULD BE GREATLY APPRECIATED.
THANK YOU~

i feel for you dear. i can almost feel the pain in your words. there is something that you need to understand. YOU are the pregnant one not your boyfriend. no matter what you decide to do, it will be happening to YOU. you need to think about what is best for you, and if you decide to keep the baby, for that child. i am 26 and i recently- less than 2 weeks ago- had a baby that i put up for adoption. i have a three year old son, the only difference in our stories is that i am married. i considered adoption, but i felt it wasn't the right decision for me. but you need to make that choice for yourself. you can consider others opinions, but the choice is yours. i know you feel alone right now, but you are not. there are many people going through the same things. i never though i would ever have a baby that i would put up for adoption, but i did. i made that choice for me. i wanted my baby to have a better life than i could give him. if you are considering adoption, go talk to a bethany councelor . they can give you information to better help you make your decision. i am not telling you not to have an abortion, i am just saying that you might want to check into adoption. just to keep your options open, just remember that you need to do what is right for you. no one has a right to judge you no matter what choice you make.